Rewilding Eros: Healing Shame, Grief & Sexual Expression (with Victor Warring)
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In This Episode
We explore how shame and grief shape sexual expression and how reconnecting to eros restores aliveness with Victor Warring. You’ll learn how emotional healing supports authentic sexuality.
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I also have years of play and discovery in dance/movement, massage/bodywork, improvisation, art, theater which all inform my work and offerings. Studying somatics, somatic sexuality education and sexological bodywork was my way of integrating all of my interests studies and passions; movement, embodiment, creativity, improvisation, biology, anthropology, human evolution, diversity, anti-oppression, sex positivity, erotic and pleasure activism. Woven together, this has become the ever evolving work of ReWild Eros.
What You’ll Learn About Shame, Grief & Sexual Expression
Grief and Eros as Inseparable Forces – Victor describes grief and eros as “space-time” or “cousins that hold hands,” explaining how one becomes a window into the other in rewilding work
Innate Erotic Intelligence as Birthright – The concept that we’re born as erotic creatures with natural pleasure-seeking intelligence that gets “squashed down” by erotophobic culture
The Subtractive Healing Approach – Victor’s process focuses on removing obstacles and conditioning rather than “fixing” something broken—chipping away at what interferes with natural erotic expression
Working with Death as Gateway to Life – His formative experience at an AIDS project taught him to sit with death and grief, which profoundly shaped his capacity to hold space for eros
Understanding the oppressions of cultural anthropology and how historical and societal forces systematically suppress erotic embodiment across generations and communities
The Color vs. Black-and-White Orgasm Metaphor – The profound grief that emerges when people realize they’ve been living with a fraction of their erotic potential for decades
Unmetabolized Grief Blocking Pleasure – How childhood losses can create unconscious fear of feeling too good, preventing full orgasmic surrender
Erotic Embodiment as Activism – How living fully in your body becomes an act of cultural resistance when society demands you tone down your aliveness
The Coffee Table Vulva Book Test – How small acts of owning your erotic truth (like displaying body-positive books openly) as everyday activism
Rewilding Beyond Traditional Relationships – Victor’s inclusive work with non-monogamous structures and diverse relationship configurations as rewinding beyond traditional relationships
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Common Questions About This Episode
Who is Victor Warring?
Victor Warring is a somatic sexuality educator and sexological bodyworker whose work is called ReWild Eros. He studied anthropology as an undergraduate and did his graduate work in Somatic Psychology, and he also brings years of dance, movement, bodywork, improvisation, art and theater. His approach draws on movement, biology, human evolution, anti-oppression, sex positivity and pleasure activism.
What does rewilding eros mean?
In this episode with Rahi Chun, Victor describes rewilding eros as reconnecting with an innate erotic intelligence that he sees as a birthright. He explains that people are born erotic and pleasure-seeking, and that this intelligence is often suppressed by erotophobic culture. His approach is subtractive, removing obstacles and conditioning rather than trying to fix something broken.
How are grief and sexuality connected?
Victor describes grief and eros as closely linked, calling them cousins that hold hands, so each can open a window into the other. He traces this understanding partly to his early work at an AIDS project, where he learned to sit with death and grief. That experience shaped how he holds space for eros today.
Can unprocessed grief block pleasure and orgasm?
Victor explains that unmetabolized grief, including losses from childhood, can create an unconscious fear of feeling too good. This can make full orgasmic surrender harder to reach. He also names the grief that can surface when people realize they have lived with only a fraction of their erotic potential for decades.
Why is erotic embodiment a form of activism?
Victor and Rahi discuss how living fully in your body becomes a quiet form of cultural resistance when society asks people to tone down their aliveness. Victor offers small, everyday examples, such as openly displaying body-positive books in your home. His work also extends rewilding to non-monogamous and diverse relationship structures.
Go Deeper Into This Work
If this conversation is stirring something in you, Rahi’s Reclaiming Your Pleasure takes you into the body-based practices that support this kind of reclamation – moving shame, restoring aliveness, and expanding your capacity for pleasure in your own body.
A guided pathway to reconnect with your body, restore sensitivity, and awaken your innate capacity for pleasure.
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