Sex Still Hurts Years After Birth? The Scar Nobody Checks

You were told the pain would pass, and years later sex still hurts. In this teaching I share why postpartum care in our culture stops at the six-week check-up, what unexamined birth scars can hold in the pelvis for years, and why acknowledgement, more than technique, is often what the body is asking for.

Numb After Years of Therapy? Why Your Body Hasn’t Caught Up

You’ve tried more touch, different touch, better touch, and still can’t feel much. In this teaching I share why armor is better understood as unintegrated emotion than as tissue damage, and the story of a session where sensation returned to a woman who had been numb her whole adult life, without any genital touch at all.

Why Sex Hurts When Your Doctor Says Nothing Is Wrong

If sex hurts and every test comes back normal, you’re not imagining it. In this teaching from one of my professional trainings, I explain the real difference between vaginismus and vulvodynia, what years of enduring penetration does to the nervous system, and how working slowly with consent and pleasure reached what pain medicine couldn’t.

Dissociation During Intimacy: Why You Leave Your Body

Arousal isn’t a skill. It’s a permission your nervous system grants only when it reads safety. In this teaching from a live masterclass with OB/Gyn Dr. Jennifer Lang, I walk through polyvagal theory and how the freeze state, where numbness and shame live, shapes your capacity to feel anything at all during intimacy.

How Trauma Wires the Body – 

A client once whispered in shame that she thought she was a monster because of how her body responded during her abuse. She wasn’t – her nervous system simply wired a horrific violent act with a physiological response. In this teaching I explain how trauma creates dissociation, how arousal can become wired to what horrifies us, and how new neural pathways are possbile.

Explore more through the online course “Reclaiming Your Pleasure” with video demos of one-way erotic touch practices on live bodies, exploring how your initial imprints are influencing your current patterns, and somatic practices for re-wiring and reclaiming your aroual and pleasure potential:  Reclaiming Your Pleasure

Why You Can’t Relax When Touched (Does Fascia Hold Trauma?)

Your body won’t relax with someone until it has proof that you’re listening. Soft de-armoring pioneer Susanne Roursgaard explains why the body tests a practitioner before it trusts, how ultra-light “matching tone” touch speaks to the fascial layers the nervous system runs through, and why de-armoring is not massage.

The Throat–Pelvis Connection Everyone Should Know

Your vocal cords and your ovaries began as the same embryonic tissue – and what silences your voice can armor your pelvis. In this teaching from my live Genital De-armoring training, I share the embryology, why learned voicelessness shows up as pelvic tension and numbness, and the simple sound practice that begins to dissolve it.

What Is Genital Armoring? Why Your Body Protects You From Pleasure

Genital armoring is the body’s protective tension – numbness, pain, or faded sensation held in our most intimate tissue as a wise response to perceived threat. In this conversation, somatic sex education pioneer Caffyn Jesse interviews me about what genital armor is, how it forms in childhood, and why whole lives can change when it releases.

Explore more through “The 3 Keys To Genital De-armoring for Reclaiming & Expanding Pleasure” – including “The 3 Keys Inquiries” exploring how the armor in your pelvis formed, video demos for self and partnered de-armoring of the vulva, vagina, cervix and penis, and the principles of effective and compassionate de-armoring:  The 3 Keys To Genital De-armoring for Reclaiming & Expanding Pleasure 

Why 80% of Adult Intimacy Struggles Begin in Childhood

80–90% of adult sexual issues can be traced back to developmental events occuring between ages birth through seven. In this conversation, we explore how the body tests every practitioner like a hurt friend would, and what soft de-armoring looks like with somatic sexuality pioneers Susanne Roursgaard and Stine Krage.

Conscious intimacy reflects the ability to remain present, connected, and responsive within intimate and erotic relationship – while staying aware of your body, emotions, and boundaries.  It is built through awareness, communication, nervous system regulation and engaging your full erotic capacity.

Listen to the most down-loaded episodes on Intimate Relating or explore the online course options for Divine Union For Lovers

→ Listen: Extended Lovemaking: slow down for deep connection & pleasure

→ Listen: Rebuilding Intimacy after healing from sexual trauma

→ Listen: Sexuality, Aging and Intimacy after 60

→ Learn:  Divine Union For Lovers – online, guided zoom & in-person options

Prostate Health and Pleasure After 60: It’s Never Too Late

He was sixty-nine, newly diagnosed with prostate cancer, and had never explored that part of his own body. In this conversation with Caffyn Jesse, I share what opened in that session, the armor men build from performing or enduring rather than feeling, and why good sex belongs in a conversation about medicine.

Somatic work supports sexual function by restoring awareness, circulation, and nervous system regulation—rather than relying on force or performance.

Listen to the most down-loaded episodes on Men’s Sexuality or explore the online course Reclaiming Your Pleasure. 

→ Listen: Prostate Massage & Male Pleasure

→ Listen: A Somatic Approach to resolving erectile dysfunction

→ Listen: Embodied Anal Pleasure & Prostate Play

→ Learn:  Reclaiming Your Pleasure Online Course

Why You Don’t Know What Turns You On

Not knowing what you want isn’t a personality flaw, and it isn’t too late. Attuning to your body’s desire is a muscle, and if no one attuned to your needs when you were young, you never got the chance to build it. In this teaching I share how I rebuild that loop with clients: attune, voice, receive.

Why Pleasure Feels Unsafe, Even With Someone You Love

If you’ve ever pulled back right at the edge of pleasure, or braced when a partner starts to please you, it isn’t a lack of desire. In this teaching from the International Congress of Somatic Sexology, I share how presence, breath, sound and movement help the body release unprocessed emotion, so “pleasure leads to loss” can become “pleasure leads to safety.”

Erotic embodiment is the capacity to feel and express sexual energy throughout the body—integrating sensation, emotion, breath, and awareness.

Listen to the most down-loaded episodes on Erotic Energy & Sexual Awakening or explore the online course Turned On By Touch

→ Listen: Ecstatic Belonging & Embodied Community

→ Listen: Rewilding Eros: Exploring Shame, Grief and Sexual Expression

→ Listen: Erotic Empowerment & Somatic Intimacy

→ Learn:  Turned On By Touch Online Course