Welcome to your Body. Remembers pleasure. I'm your host, Rahi Chun. This podcast is devoted to sexual embodiment, intimacy, and the body's innate capacity to heal, feel, and remember pleasure. If something here resonates with you, you're welcome to explore more writings and resources@rahichun.com. And now let's begin.

 

Today we invite Devy Ward Erickson to the podcast. I've always been a fan of Devy and how the Institute for Authentic Contra education, blessed by her lineage of teachers and llamas, is bringing ancient Tibetan tantric meditation. Practices and healing to a Western audience for embodied sexual wholeness.

I also appreciate her perspectives and understanding of the subtle and nuanced ways in which race and the microaggressions of our sociocultural and racial environment affects and is affected by our individual and collective embodied sexuality. Today I am really thrilled and happy and just tickled to be introducing our guest today, Devi Ward Erickson, who is the founder of the Institute of Authentic Tantra Education which is just fascinating.

It combines ancient wisdom. Of the Tibetan five element teachings and meditations, a lineage that's been passed down orally over 1200 years. And she combines it with modern day somatic healing modalities to resolve trauma from the nervous system for healthy and vibrant sexual embodiment. Debbie, I'm so glad that you're here with us today.

Thank you. Oh, I'm so delighted to be invited. Thank you so much. You're so welcome. So welcome. So Debbie, I thought a great jumping off point would be asking you if you could share the role pleasure played in your healing journey and the role that the Tibetan five element teachings and meditations played in your sexual reclamation and embodiment.

Yeah, both of those things are very woven together. So I will say that pleasure was the missing piece in my healing journey and when it finally kicked into place or locked into place, that's. My entire universe changed. That's when healing, deep Healing actually occurred. So before I encountered the five element teachings, which were my pathway of healing through pleasure I had been a stripper in Detroit.

And I had been a monk of the iShare order after that for almost a decade. And I committed my life when I was 23. I took vows and became a monk of the Asiah tradition and committed my life to spiritual realization. And in all honesty, I did that as a way of escaping the pain of living in a body that was full of trauma.

This was all. Over 20 years ago, 25 years ago, and the landscape of somatic healing and, being trauma-informed, it did not look anything like it does now. Like all of this trauma-informed knowledge is, I would say, recent in the last decade or so, right? It's really starting to gain more vis visibility.

So 25 years ago, we didn't have the language for that. I didn't understand that I was, that a lot of my symptoms. Like suicide dysfunction, depression. I didn't understand that those were symptoms of post-traumatic stress. Because of my early childhood trauma, I had no idea. I just thought it was broken.

And and I wanted to find a way to alleviate. My pain. And so a a turning point for me was when I was around 20 years old, I sat down with a razor blade and a bottle of wine. And was very committed to killing myself. And I've got the scars on my wrist to. It. Sat down and started hacking away and I, at the very last moment when I was going to make the last cuts that I knew would end my life I couldn't do it.

And so that was a moment of reckoning for me because up until that point I had been very suicide was always a backdoor for me. It was always like if this doesn't work out or it gets too bad, then I'll just kill myself. And so that was a reality for me up until the point where I was actually really going to kill myself and realize that was no longer an option.

Living in pain, the kind of excruciating, unending, agonizing emotional pain. That I was in was also not an option. And so I committed my life to finding a way to, to heal, to release myself from suffering, to find joy. Ultimately, that was my goals. I just wanted not feel like I wanna die every day.

And so I was very determined and set out on investigating and exploring and studying many different therapies. I studied herbalism, I studied reiki, I studied crystal healing. I studied. Organic gardening. Anything I could think of. And that's what eventually led me to becoming a monk in this spiritual tradition.

And the meditation practice that we did was called Ascension. And it was very useful for me at that point in my life because it very was about disembodiment. It was a disembodiment practice. It was about ascending. From the physical form and ignoring the body. The body was like an anchor. The body was, this earthly thing and all, there was a huge investment in this disembodied, altered, ecstatic kind of state of being.

And that I say, I think of it as having saved my life for the next 10 years because instead of being a drug addict, to avoid the pain or doing more harmful behavior to try to ease the pain, I. Committed to a spiritual path. I invested in a spiritual path and and so I got to bypass a lot of this, which still saw, but I wasn't connected with it as fully.

So when I encountered the five element teachings they were presented to me as a, as lineage based methods for harnessing sexual energy and using it. For the transformation of consciousness and the realization of enlightenment. And at that point in my life, I was all about enlightenment because enlightenment meant the end of suffering.

And I also thought it meant getting out of my body. And I was in for a rude awakening because the journey with the five elements and healing through pleasure was about embodiment. And that was the thing I'd been trying to avoid every day diligently for the last decade. And perhaps before that. So it was the bliss of the sexual pleasure that I was being introduced to, that fortified my ability to move through the depths of pain that I needed to move through in order to fully inhabit my body again. And for me the sexual aspect was the one thing that I had never tried. I had tried all these oth other modalities. I had tried crystals and ascending and raw foods. I was a raw foodist for years, I thought cooked food was poison.

Like I did, I put all kinds of things on my butt for cleansing and drank charcoal and all the stuff that you do didn't eat for months or days or weeks or whatever. And I tried all of that. And none of it addressed directly. The wound. None of it, it was like a, a palliative, but it never alleviated the pain entirely.

And the one thing that I had never tried was sexual pleasure. I didn't even know it was a possibility. I was extremely ignorant coming into the world of sexual healing and tantra. I didn't know what a g-spot was. It just I was afraid of looking at my vulva. I was mortified at the thought of, just saying, yes, that feels good to a partner in bed.

I had all of the. Social occlusions that we have in the society in regards to talking openly around sex or even knowing our sexual anatomy. None of that was in place for me. Being introduced to Tantra as a way of integrating my sexuality into my spiritual path was appealing because I hadn't tried it before.

I didn't even know it was possible, and the experience of. It was it's indescribable the ecstasy that I was able to experience through my first yoni, yoni massage healing session five hours long. And it was this very tangible experience of having emotional and physical obstacles arise in my body and in my awareness and having my mentor.

Coach me and guide me through relaxing and breathing and making eye contact. And I was totally freaking out and coming into my body, moving through that pain to come into my body and those obstacles, purifying, releasing, moving out of the way. And on the other side of them was transcendence. On the other side of them was an explosion of white light and just again, indescribable sexual ecstasy.

And the ecstasy. Outweighed the suffering. And that's what kept me going. And that's why I think, for me, and I think for people that are, have a lot of trauma in the body, why the pleasure is such a necessary counterbalance. Because we are as human beings, so motivated to move towards pleasure, that's what we're wired for.

If it feels good, it's good. If it tastes good, it's good. It's like we're designed for pleasure to be our guide. And yet for those of us who are traumatized, pleasure is so absent. It's so absent is a lived reality. It's like miserly in how it shows up. You get peanuts of pleasure but not bliss.

And so to have an experience of ecstatic bliss in my body, that like literally erased everything else from my consciousness that was. I potent enough for me to be willing to examine and move through whatever was and get rid of. Quite frankly, what, whatever was in the way of me experiencing more of that pleasurable sensation.

Does that make sense? Is that clear? That makes total sense and I think it's really profound and important. What I mean just to underscore, it's like when we are traumatized as young people, it's painful to be in the body and we don't wanna be in the body. And it's really fascinating and I ironic that you went into Mon Could.

Because the draw was that you wouldn't have to be in your body. And yet during that manhood experience, you came upon these tantric practices that put you right into your body, but did it in a way where you were embodying pleasure and burning through. The cellular memory of those stagnant emotions and the pain.

And yes, the pleasure is a phenomenal counterbalance. And, for those, for the embodied folks who are still carrying a lot of trauma, it is an anchor and a incentive to be, to stay in the body in order to burn through that stuff. Yes, because it, it is transcendent and feels so good. You're making total sense, Debbie.

Yeah. And I also think pleasure. It's like lubricant in a way. Like not necessarily sex loop, but like WD 40 kinda loop, right? Yeah. So the trauma is like this clunky, blocky, constricted, hard armored energy. And pleasure is like this warm golden, yes. Melting fluids. So it it's like dissolves all those hard spots and just devours them in a way. Totally. That's a great way of saying it. And I think, what we've learned now about somatic healing and resolving trauma from the body is we need to move at a pace that feels safe for the body and having that counterbalance of the pleasure. Allows for the nervous system to integrate and breathe and be okay and feel good so then it can go back and burn some more of that, pain and anguish and then come back to the pleasure.

Yeah, I think it's a really wise and. It's fascinating to me that your journey unfolded in this way, during your manka to come across these Tibetan practices that invited you back into your body and incentivized you to explore what really that could be in your pleasure.

Yeah. And I think that, the experience that I had as a monk was really fruitful in that it helped me develop cultivate, meditative focus and discipline. I was extremely diligent to my practice, and so I would regularly meditate four hours a day. That was nothing for me. I would meditate in the morning.

I would meditate in the evening. It was just, it was normal. It was a normal part of my day. And on weekends I would very often meditate all weekend. So that was the. Focus, that level of discipline was the primary focus in my life. And I really think that it it really cleared the ground.

It helped harmonize my brain and make it like if I'd encountered the Tibetan teachings before. This, there's no way I could have focused because the Tibetan teachings require so much more presence and so much more focus than this other meditation practice that I'd been doing.

But the other practice allowed me to just allowed my brain to rest. Yes. And I think it allowed my brain to potentially heal a bit. Yeah. From all of that dysfunction, that trauma-based dysfunction. So that when I did encounter these five element teachings and then the more advanced. Riana teachings I had the ability to actually utilize them and work with them as opposed to, just not having the attention span or the focus.

Yeah. And, and my training took my RA training. It was, it took discipline and focus. I was training five hours a day, four days a week in. Sexual and non-sexual tantra. So that's 20 hours a week of focused, riana, tantra, including sexuality. And so it was very intensive.

It was an intense period of focus for six months, one-on-one with my mentor, and then receiving the non-sexual teachings from my lama. And we did all of this under the umbrella of the llama's support. He had given the sexual teachings to my mentor, and my mentor formally invited me to train with him.

And he. Formed LA a Lai that he was going to be training me in these methods and got his approval. So it was very, it was very formal in the traditional sense. And so Lai was aware of what was happening with me in my sexual practices and could help my mentor tweak and direct them so that I wasn't overwhelmed by by what I was experiencing.

Wow. That sounds, yeah. Really intentional and the structures and the focus really served your practice and your healing. Yeah. It does sound like the years of meditation really did still your mind and prepared you for the. Intense kind of concentration that's needed to be present and to explore sensations.

So I wanna touch upon, and I think in a lot of Eastern practices, there is that teacher to student, transmission, if you will. Exactly. Because it's very important when we're working with energy practices that it be used correctly. And so it's like you have the whole. 1200 year lineage supporting you and supporting this practice to whoever, whatever students it's being, disseminated towards.

This is what makes, I think your institute really unique. In addition to being the only government accredited, tantra Institute, I think in the world, the fact that it's really carrying on this sacred oral tradition and practice in a way that's supported by this lineage.

Yeah. Yeah. And we teach with the blessing and the permission of our lawmen. He's very excited about what we're doing when he, when we talk to him. 'cause he sees the healing potential. Like these are ancient methods that literally heal on the cellular level. They heal on the physical level, they heal on the energy body level.

They hear the mind. Heal the heart. They reconnect us with our spiritual essence. And so the fact that they're able to be proliferated widely in the West in a way that's very accessible to people who may not otherwise be attracted to them. A lot of the people that we work with aren't necessarily attracted to Tibetan Buddhism.

Tibetan Buddhism's, very complex. But they are very attracted to healing. And they are very attracted to connection with their environment, with their elemental environment. We as human beings, as a society, need to know how to work with our sexuality, engage with our sexuality from a standpoint of love and compassion and healing and transformation.

That is what our sexual energy is for. It is transformative energy and for us to not know how to work with that. Constructively and skillfully is, it's a sacrilege in my opinion. It's misconduct to not allow us access to these teachings. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. And so in regards to the teachings devy, the Tibetan five element meditation, if you can describe that a little bit, because it seems like it is a conscious generating and conscious channeling of sexual energy in order to open up and clear obstacles from our energy chakras, our energy centers.

Yeah. So first we have to learn the non-sexual application of the five element meditations, right? So that's the way we teach and that's how I learned too, is first, before you can do run all this fun energy sexually, you have to be able to do it non-sexual. You have to be able to, 'cause it's visualizing and chanting and there's all this stuff going on.

And before you can add sexual fuel to that. You have to be able to do it non sexually in a non triggering environment, so to speak, or a non, not a less dynamic environment. Yes. And so we learn how to do them as a sitting meditation first, and each element corresponds with one of the major energy centers of the body.

So in this tradition, the Tibetan tradition, we work with five major chakras. There are seven, so the chakra on the crown and the chakra at the root are considered caps. And the root chakra is red, and that's said to contain the feminine essence of the body. And the crown chakra is white, and that's said to contain the masculine essence of the body, and they're viewed as caps to keep the energy in the body.

So there's other traditions that like to shoot energy out the crown of the head. Or, disperse energy. We don't wanna disperse anything. We want to keep it in the body. We wanna use it. For transmutation and transformation. And then we wanna u take that energy and we wanna bring it out into the world to benefit others, to build the first government accredited school for tantra.

To build, institutions we wanna cultivate and we wanna use it. So those are the caps. And then in our pelvis we have our. Fire element chakra. So fire is the sexual fuel, right? If we think of sexual energy, it's burning. It's hot, it's fiery, it's dynamic. It's luminous, right? So there's fire in the pelvis.

There's earth at the navel for grounding, for stability. Space element is in the heart. And space element is considered the mind, the true mind, the universal mind. And I love that it's in the heart because space is universal and infinite, and so is our capacity for love. And love is the ground of all tantra.

If there is no love, there is no tantra. So everything about in this tradition, the tantric tradition, and I'm studying Tibetan medicine right now, even, practicing medicine must be rooted in love. And then we have air in the throat and we have water in the center of the skull. And so each of the elements is an antidote to one of the root poisons of human emotion.

So the five root poisons or anger, attachment, pride. Jealousy and ignorance. And so working with the elements and enriching them and using these lineage based methods to charge them and activate them helps dissolve those root poisons in our stream of consciousness at the level of consciousness itself.

And it also begins to dissolve the chemical reaction of those poisons in our physical body. So it purifies the poisons. Also, each of the elements has a power or an activity. So as that root poison is purified, it awakens or activates our ability to manifest, to magnetize, to enrich, to pacify, to heal, and to create.

And then also each of the elements brings a wisdom with it. So as that elemental energy builds in the body and the energy body, the physical body, and the consciousness itself, it begins to open our awareness so that we're able to access different types of wisdom and knowledge. So for instance, fire element is the ant, which is our sex chakra, interestingly, is the antidote to attachment.

It has the power of magnetizing and attracting. And the wisdom that it brings is discernment. So the way all of those pieces fit together for me is, one of the biggest sufferings in our society, in my opinion, is our sexuality, is the ignorance related to our sexuality?

And as a result of, having. Dysfunctional fire element, shockers, there's a lot of attachment in the world, and attachment breeds all kinds of suffering. Attachment to money is why there's people starving in the United States right now. Attachment to our belief systems. Attachment to our tradition.

So attachment causes all these different types of suffering, attachment to outcome. And as our sex chakra heals and purifies and becomes more balanced, our propensity to attach to things lessens. As our attachment dissolves, our ability to magnetize and attract. Auspicious things into our life, it becomes more enhanced.

So we're able to draw to ourselves, resources, experiences, people, opportunity to support our growth and to support our experience of joy in the world. Yeah. So it is a very using the. The energy centers of the body and understanding what the elements are, what they magnetize, what emotions they're susceptible to, really allows for this dynamic release and healing through channeling our energy, burning through the obstacles or the stagnation in each of those energy centers.

And in so doing, releasing the obstacles to, our emotional obstacles our pain body essentially. Exactly. And each of the elements also has a quality, like I think of it like a flavor or just like a bath. It's just kinda like the energy that you swim in. And so fire element, again, the quality of fire elements is bliss.

So this is the connection for me is that, talk about, sexual tan and living in, in orgasmic. Life and blahdi blah. Again, when our sex chakra is healthy, balanced, and rich activated, just the way it was meant to be. Then we live, then our consciousness is infused with bliss.

Not just sexual bliss, but bliss is a state of being. Bliss is a state of consciousness. Yeah. Yeah. Beautiful. Debbie, can you help us understand take us through, so you went into Hood. The meditation prepared you for the Tibetan practices. Here you are prepared and going through a very regimented, intense, and also like supervised process that invited you back into your body and invited you to embody exquisite sexual pleasure to burn through all of these obstacles in the pain body.

Like where did you go from there to birthing the institute and incorporating your life's journey of understanding healing modalities? Yeah. Yeah. When I first started my tan training with my mentor I had no idea what I was saying yes to. And if I had known, I probably would not have said yes to it because even though there was all this pleasure, there was also a significant amount of pain Sure.

That I was unprepared for. Again, I didn't know anything about trauma. So when I started hitting into those, those trauma blocks and those wounds, I was. I was overwhelmed at first because I didn't understand what was happening. But again, the result was worth it. So not just the sexual bliss, but also my ability to feel for the first time to actually feel my body for what seemed like the first time in my life.

Yeah. And when I would com stand in front of another person and talk with them for the first time in my life, I could actually feel them. Like energetically, I could feel another human being instead of floating above the top of my head and looking down. So I committed to this six months and it was like I had finally found my purpose in life.

It, I honestly, I'm not exaggerating, like the heavens parted, the clouds parted the heavens opened up. Yeah. Mana fell from heaven. It was like. Oh my God. This is all the experiences of my life up to this point. The being a stripper, the, like all, everything started to make sense and fit into place with the integration of the sexual healing that I was experiencing.

And my mentor had had the desire tos. Start a school for Tantra on the island of Kauai. And so as we were going through this training, he was, I was a very good student, so it's like, Hey, you might wanna be part of this school. And again, I was like, wow. Yes. Having a school for Tantra where we're teaching.

These ancient lineage based sexual and non-sexual healing methods that have never been taught this way ever in the West. Like it was, this pioneering thing. And so that was the intention. So after my training or through my training, I'll say it arose to participate in the.

Development of this school. That didn't happen the way we thought it would. And so we moved to Vancouver Canada. And and began teaching establishing our business there, and began teaching Tibetan five element tantric workshops. I see. But to answer your question about weaving in all these other things.

For me it was born out of my curiosity to understand what was happening to me, but I was relentless about just finding out like, okay, so why, how can I have all these orgasmic experiences and what's happening in my body? This, like, when I come up to these things and, and I go through with the move through a block and then I feel.

Healed afterwards. What is that healing? I wanted to understand the mechanism of it. And so I dove into learning about somatics. Learning about how the body heals itself. And I was also a dancer. And so movements has been my jam my whole life. I developed a technique where I worked with the five element practices and movement and breath to open the body and to release in a way that was, again, less intense and dynamic than sexual, than the sexual experience.

And I began to teach that on the island. So I developed a modality called Sacred Erotic Dance. Nice. And then I wove the five element teachings very naturally on, onto it. And, checked in with my llama to make sure it was all correct. And he is yeah go girl. And then I began to work with people using this movement and using, combined with the five elements and breath and awareness, and I had phenomenal results.

I had people, I worked with, women who had, experienced severe sexual trauma, had been in therapy. This one woman had been in therapy for 16 years. Had very little growth, and she worked with me for three months and transformed her life. And her therapist actually came up to me at an event and said, I have no idea what you're doing, but please keep doing it.

I've seen more growth. This woman in the three months that you've been doing this movement work with her that I've seen in the last 16 years doing talk therapy. So that really cinched it for me is that like we can talk all day long about our healing and our trauma, but when we get into the body has its own wisdom and its own intelligence.

And this is also taught in tantric Buddhism that the body is Buddha, all wisdom, knowledge, and power is contained in the human form. So I kept getting the, these directions to come back home to the body. And that had been my experience with the sexual healing and coming back home, landing in my body.

Yes. So I just studied. I learned. I wanted to know what was happening and how it was happening. And so I accessed the resources that I could, like I said, I read lots about Somatic Healing. I listened to Peter Levine, listened to the experts that were available at the time continued working with the five element teachings.

And then I also had, oh, and then I will say beyond the five element teachings, I took refuge in the Shenk Baca lineage. Lama Tahi is my root llama, and I dedicated my life and my path to Riana Buddhism. And so I, aside from the five elements, I began working with some of the more advanced riana non-sexual teachings, and then eventually received permission to weave those into my sexual practice as well.

So it was just, again, my curiosity about my own healing process Yes. Wanting to understand why it was happening. Yeah. And then once I knew what was happening for me I'm like everybody needs to know this. Sure, sure. Absolutely. And because my healing is so profound, going from suicidal, depressed, completely dysfunctional loss to yes.

A bright shining light in the world. It's it, everybody else needs to know how to do this. Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely. So that makes so much sense. Devy, like your curiosity of your own just incredible transformation led you to dig deep and find answers as to how you transformed and, I love that.

I love that you've interwoven the five elements with movement because it is such a gentle and fun expression of embodiment whilst, engaging in this safer. Habitation of our bodies. Yeah. So this brings me to a question because I saw, the four pillars of the Authentic Contra Institute meditation movement, which you've mentioned, and then connection and pleasure.

Now we understand how meditation and movement became two of these pillars. Pleasure is a natural. Kind of result of connecting inwardly getting into our sensorial pleasures. Can you share how the connection of the four pillars interweave with the other three and how vital each one is to the other? They all seem to compliment each other.

Yeah. Thank you. Yeah, so the connection pillar, you are, everything is born out of connection, right? Connection to ourselves, connection to source, connection to each other. Connection is the medicine that heals ultimately when we're talking about healing trauma, it's connection. Is the antidote to trauma.

And for me at the same time my, my time in Kauai I really think of it as as my grad school. So not a formal, not, obviously not formal, but I was studying diligently along with the Buddhism, along with teaching movement. I was also training in nonviolent communic. Oh, cool.

So I trained from 2005 until I left the island in 2010. Under my mentor, Issa Maria, who is a one of the most incredible nonviolent communication facilitators I've. Ever seen, and I've, went to New Mexico and studied with Marshall rosenberg for a retreat as well, and Issa was, is at par with him.

And so for the connection piece for me was really rooted in the nonviolent communication aspect because, again, nonviolent communication for me was the, was how we practice compassion. It's the actual technique and the method for how to be compassionate with ourselves, and compassionate with.

The rest of humanity, understanding that all of our emotions and feelings are indicative of a deeper, underlying need, and that need is the connection or the, or the is. When we connect with the need, we connect with our humanity. So the more fully I can connect with my need, the more effectively I can function as a human being.

That's where it started for me. And the way I communicate with myself is also the way I communicate with other people. So Issa Maria has a very unique approach to NVC, which is or she did at the time I was studying with her, which is really that, NVC is very often taught, or nonviolent communication is often taught as a way to communicate with other people.

But she's let's look at how you communicate with yourself. Let's address that, and the only thing that's really ever going on in any moment is, what am I feeling? What am I needing? That's the only thing that's ever happening. No matter what other drama is happening, what am I feeling and what am I needing?

So that is like anchoring back into the body and connecting fully with ourselves. And then from there we connect. Externally. Sure. And so I, we have a variety of techniques that we use to enhance connection. So like I said, nonviolent communication is one of them. Connecting with a partner through tantric speech and words of appreciation and tantric union breathing, connecting with the elements through the elemental meditation or just our sensual awareness.

So connection is really the core of the foundation and all of the pleasure and the movement and the meditation are all ways of enhancing and deepening our connection to ourselves, connection to our universe, connection to our environment. Yeah. One of my supervisors for neuro Effecti Touch, she often speaks about how in the same way that trees and plants gravitate towards the sun for sunlight.

The nature of human beings is to gravitate towards connection. Connection and aliveness. Yeah. And both of the words, the connection and aliveness are the pillars of what your institute offers. And I love how you spoke about, ultimately it is connecting that intimate, developing that intimate connection within ourselves which the meditation.

Nurtures, which the movement nurtures within our own body, the pleasure within our own body. It really starts from there, and then from there it's like you can connect and experience pleasure with anything. Exactly, yes. Spontaneously arising joy, right? And our emphasis in the pleasure practices is very much about cultivating our solo pleasure.

So this includes sexual pleasure. So we talk about, I talk about the four forms of pleasure. In my book I talk about physical slash sensual pleasure. So anything having to do with the physical body like movement and the five senses. Emotional pleasure. Those things that fill our heart, expand our heart, open our heart, spiritual pleasure.

Those experiences that help us feel connected to a greater sense of self, whatever that is for you. And then sexual pleasure. And sexual pleasure is its own unique. I delineate it as its own unique form of pleasure. A, because it often gets pushed to the side and B, because it is so dynamic, because, I can have all kinds of other sensual pleasure going on in my life.

Baths and massages and all of that. And when I add sexual pleasure, it's like adding magic. Like it's, there's something unique that can, that's and irreplaceable about our sexual pleasure. And so in the work that we do, we really emphasize people connecting with their own bodies and their own pleasure, whether it's sexual, emotional, spiritual, or essential, and cultivating that as a practice.

Cultivating pleasure consciousness. And which is a reframe because we live in a paradigm of pain that emphasizes and glorifies pain. So it's like a revolution of consciousness to orient our awareness, to seek out and find pleasure, and to emphasize pleasure to prioritize. Pleasure. And so we do that within ourselves and then we invite a partner into that with us.

So instead of, the old many, the conventional thing is I'm gonna get a, I'm gonna have a partner and then I'm gonna be happy, or I'm gonna get a partner. We're gonna study tan together for us. And for me it was, no, I'm gonna root in my own tantra practice 'cause I've been single as a Tanika and I deepen my own personal practice.

And then I invite my suitors. Or my consorts into my tan yoga practice. And then we practice together. It's so reflective of your own healing journey of how pleasure was medicine in your life. So it makes so much sense that the foundation of the institute would reflect that as well, and that is how we ultimately heal.

It's an inside job. It's, it is. And yeah. And it has to Pleasure is lube. Yes. Yes. Pleasure is lube. Yes. The other thing that I wanted to highlight about what I find unique about your institute, and it's reflected everywhere in your podcast, sexist Medicine with Debbie Ward podcast and YouTube channel, which is fabulous, is the understanding of the sociocultural conditioning.

In our society and within our bodies, and the role that plays in keeping us disconnected from our own body's pleasure and as a result from each other. Like when I was going through different tantra trainings in schools, there was never a understanding of how integral that is in the way it impacts our collective sexual embodiment and our, intimate sexual relations.

And so I really appreciate how. The lens through which you are educating about our sexuality is through this lens of how we're conditioned through society and our social culture. Yeah. And again, that, that arose out of my own healing. So I, I think that I will say that a lot of, the tantra in the west, the neo tantra has been predominantly, it's been dominated by white, the white society.

And so I haven't had the privilege of ignoring. The socio dynamics because I'm a biracial black woman. And I was born in 1974, which was only fi like my parents got married, legally, got married the year that they wouldn't go to jail for it. Which was 1969. Like it's phenomenal to me that my parents would've gone to jail for getting married one year.

Year earlier. Yeah. In that sense and I was illegal. It's mind blowing. It's mind blowing. So I have not had the privilege of ignoring that. Yeah. I've been told from the time I was a child that I did not belong here, that I that I was an abomination. Like no joke from the time I was a child, I was told that I was an abomination by our society.

So I haven't had the privilege of ignoring the impact that had, that has had on my humanity, my sense of self and my sexuality. So I think that's part of why there's the gap is because of the social factors be such as privilege. Such as, white supremacy. If you don't have to deal with a pain ever in your life, you have the privilege of remaining ignorant of it.

I did not have that privilege. So that was one of. First traumas that I hid into was all of the racism and all of the racial self-hatred that had been conditioned into me and was stored in my vagina and affecting my sexuality and affecting my sexual choices. Also, because I was so ignorant around my own sexual potential, I was mad.

I was I looked at society, I'm like, how did I go 33 years of my life and nobody told me where my G-spot was, and I got to see really cool. Clearly how the way we are conditioned in the society. Or I'll say we were, I'm a Gen Xer and I, things are changing with other generations, but I'll say with my gen, my generation, the way we were very conditioned of, what it is to be a good girl.

What does it look like to be a good girl? Don't speak up. Don't say what you like in bed. Don't pretend you don't like sex. Acquiesce gi put up a fight. Like all these messages that we are given in society about how we need to perform sexually in order to receive acceptance and love and connection.

And because, as you said, we're so motivated by connection will turn ourselves into pretzels. We'll tie ourselves into knots to get that nourishment of connection. However we can. And so the em, all, everything that we emphasize in our school is because that's all shit that I had to deal with.

Yeah. Especially again, it's not, it's, I wasn't like, it's oh, we need to look at this. It was like, this is, these are the wounds and I know that I'm not the only one who carries them. Absolutely not. And what you're speaking to about the ways in which we tie ourselves up as pretzels to feel accepted.

To Field connection is different based on our culture, our race, our socioeconomic class, all of that. There's a, a kind of a power hierarchy that reflects safety. A sense of belonging in our society that, that isn't really talked about in sexuality, but it exists there and it's profound in the way we feel ourselves and we engage with each other sexually.

Yes. Yeah. For me, again, my experiences so I, my mom was white and my dad's black. And they divorced. And so I lived with my white mom in the white suburbs and I was very often the only black person. Certainly the only biracial person in any of my schools or neighborhoods. Wow.

And so as a teenager, I had very clear experiences of, white boys wanting some, having jungle fever, right? They did. They wanted to have sex with me, but they didn't wanna date me. So that informs my sense of worth and value as a woman, as a sexual being. It's okay, so the white boys wanna fuck me, but they don't wanna date me.

Or, having a crush on a guy, and it was a very mutual, cute little white boy that very mutual, and his sister told them that he was dating. Me and his parents threatened to kick him outta the house. If he didn't break up with me. Because it was black. Yeah. So these are, of course that's gonna impact my Of course.

Of course. That's gonna in Yeah. And of course that's gonna influence my sexuality. Absolutely. That is a trauma. It is a trauma. Yeah. And it's all these microaggressions that. Add up and that gets, affects our sense of safety or our sense of hypervigilance when we are engaging sexually or interacting even socially.

Yeah. Absolutely. Absolutely. That could be, that's such a big topic. I hate to just touch on it, but I do wanna ask you before we wrap up, here you've created this incredible institute. It's training people. It's been really successful. Where does it feel like it wants to go next?

Yeah, that's a great question. Expanding our team. And we all have different roles that we play. And so my husband, for instance, is was a professor at University of British Columbia and he ended up leaving Vancouver UBC and moved here to Kelowna. And he is now the senior educational administrator for the school.

So actually have an actual dean with a PhD and all that. Great. And he's actually working to get our next level of accreditation from the government. Which is called, officially called designation. Which would allow our students to apply for student aid. So that the school, that the government would pay for people to become authentic RA practitioners, that is how great is that?

Yeah, it's government accredited. Yeah. But then we also do have some students graduates and potential students and graduates in the United States who are very excited about what we're doing, who want to start moving it. To institutions. So we have one woman who is a student at Widener University Yeah.

Who is doing her practicum with the institute this year. Oh. And she wants to be she actually wants, she's a veteran and so she wants to work on getting VA loans to pay for the certification training. So what I see actually is the institute penetrating more institutions. With the help of people that are excited about the vision and want to contribute and then expanding our core team.

So in 2021, we are bringing on more of our graduates to act as instructors for our training programs. Great. So we have, I just. We have incredible graduates. They're so well trained. And they're so amazing, such incredible healers. So I see this expansion and this infiltration, this penetration of the institutions to make these teachings even more accessible.

I want, ideally I'd like to, I'd like to, I say mainstream it, but not mainstream it in the way, like it loses its essence. You don't wanna water it down. It's I don't wanna water it down, but may No. Yeah. To make it more available and make it more available. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, that sounds great.

I'll have the link to your certainly the website and the the podcast and the YouTube channel in the show notes. Yeah. Awesome. Yeah, this is very exciting. And I must say, like you're, I love your podcast. It's just so real and it, I love how you highlight your very, talented graduates as well.

And you speak about issues that I don't see really being discussed elsewhere. And it's just. I think a phenomenal service and just a great resource for everyone. Thank you. Thank you so much. Rahi, that means so much. Absolutely. Devi, thank you so much for being who you are, for shining your light and for being with us today.

Thank you so much for having me. It's an honor and a delight. Yes, a delight. How is this episode landing in your body?

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