Welcome to your Body. Remembers pleasure. I'm your host, Rahi Chun. This podcast is devoted to sexual embodiment, intimacy, and the body's innate capacity to heal, feel, and remember pleasure. If something here resonates with you, you're welcome to explore more writings and resources@rahichun.com. And now let's begin.

 So after several years of interviewing fellow somatic sexuality practitioners in the field today, I had the joyous opportunity to be interviewed by my dear friend and colleague. Ka and Jesse Kahan and I explore the influences that have informed my approach to genital deaming, including neuro effecti, touch, developmental psychology, and sexological body work, as well as the experiences that have informed my space holding, including vipasana meditation and plant medicine journeys.

With their inquisitive mind and generous heart, Kahan is always a delight to explore such rich themes with.

So here we are with Rahi Chun. And I've been following RA's work for many years now, and over the past few years we've become dear friends, so I feel so lucky and honored and happy to be interviewing Rahi today for his own wonderful organic sexuality podcast. So Rahi iss, a hugely respected colleague, an esteemed teacher, a fellow somatic sex educator who's evolved his own unique teachings.

Brought them so generously into the field where it said just huge influence. So alongside his in-depth work with clients one-on-one over many years, Rahi Hass. Done in-depth studies in many areas of trauma and healing, anatomy, pleasure, empowered choice, and voice, and spiritual psychology. So Rahi has a very busy practice offering one-to-one sessions, mostly in Los Angeles, where he's based, and he also travels the world with his teachings.

But wherever you live we're just so fortunate that Rahi ISS now offering an online genital diaring training, and we're gonna speak about that today. So I've had the privilege of receiving a genital diaring session with Rahi, and I can attest how his unique approach to this work has really astonishing positive impacts because I've struggled with Vulvadinya for four decades.

That's four. 40 years of genital pain. And so I wasn't expecting very much with a session, but with Rahi unique approach, I experienced a, an really unexpected, ecstatic diaring of both of my body and my genitals and my whole body, and also my, a sense of that deaming of the soul. So that can sound pretty mystifying this whole process.

So Rahi, can you just explain a little bit about what Deaming is and how armor shows up in our body and in our genitals? Sure. Thank you for that beautiful introduction. Kahan. Yeah, it's a real honor to be interviewed by you. I like to think of genital armor and the process of de arming as in a very simple way, reestablishing an intimate relationship and connection with our genitalia.

I feel like so much of. How armor forms comes about as a result of a disconnect. And there's something in the way of really attuning to listening for and responding to the desires, needs, and voice of our genitalia. So it's really reestablishing and like a reconnection with that part of our body.

You, you hold space for deaming in such a unique way. Can you tell me something about how you evolved your unique approach to genital deaming, some of your important experiences along the way. Sure. Yeah. The way I often explain the approach of somatic sexual wholeness is that we repair ruptures.

Sequentially starting with the influences from the client's body's childhood because oftentimes our adult sexual behaviors, patterns and experiences and desires can be rooted back, threaded back to events from our childhood. So I like to start there and do a thorough intake, and I like to go back as far as what were the emotions during the gestation period, before the birthing. And then of course the birthing experience itself is very significant because that can pair oxytocin with certain emotions or certain struggles or pleasures that can lead to patterns throughout one's life. So it's investigating the influences during the developmental years and then.

As we follow the trajectory of the body's evolution, usually in adolescence when a young being is individuating the family group shifts from being their biological family to their peer family, and oftentimes there are. Instances affecting one's boundaries and consent because it's something we're not taught.

And for a lot of us, it usually involves a lot of trial and error and oftentimes a violation of boundaries. And so we really look at that individuation process. And how was the body and one's sexuality affected? When it comes to its trust, its voice, and its consent. And then usually those are like the building blocks that reveal how any armor shows up in the body as an adult.

And there's different approaches. I've been influenced by the tantric approach, the Taos approach, the psychosomatic approach, as well as the pleasure approach and rewiring pleasure as a way to de arm. And I knew you've been such a great influence in that realm for me with all of the books and trainings.

But as far as like how my approach developed, honestly. I wish I could say like I thought this through, as most practitioners know, it's our clients who are really the guiding lights and the lighthouses that guide us and that, lead us to different inquiries.

And, early on it was just really clear to me that we have to really start with the safety within the nervous system. And that is really everything as far as how the body responds to touch, can attune to its desires for touch can, have oxygenated tissues to experience the pleasures.

This is all rooted in the nervous system and so I really love exploring how can we best create an environment for the nervous system to feel safe and yield to its own life force. Yes. Yielding to its own life force. I love that. One thing I've loved experiencing with you and experienced you as a teacher is in this exercise of how do we as practitioners support a client in yielding to receive support.

Now, that's a practice you developed that's based on neuro effecti. Touch and healing infant attachment wounds, as you were saying, like going all the way back to our infant experience. And then thinking of me as a little baby and a really chaotic, traumatic kind of environment in my family home and yourself as a little baby, receiving your mother's touch to, to heal your legs.

And how that, how important that.

Your legs online. Yeah, these infant attachment wounds, as you're saying, become part of our nervous system, even part of our DNA expression, like from the earliest infancy and that fielding to receive support exercise. Is about re-patterning the relational field and one's own nervous system, but that interpersonal nervous system as well.

Experience of being cared for and partnered and listened to and supported physically to yield to release. I feel like it's really profound, the depths to which our infant ruptures can be repaired. By simple attune touch, and it needs to be a relational touch dynamic because when the rupture occurs in a relational dynamic, it's really best very effectively repaired in a relational dynamic.

And what you're speaking to Kahan the unmet needs of an infant whether it's touch needs that were not attended to or touch that was unwanted lives in the body's memory, and it will be remembered every time there is something similar or familiar. To reminded of that childhood wound.

So it could be with a very safe, loving adult partner, but the way they are touching you may elicit this nervous system response, which puts you into a fight flight or fa mode or a freeze state. And so it can be repaired. As you mentioned, I've been very influenced by this modality, neuro effecti touch developed by Dr.

Alien LaPierre because it really is designed to address. Ways in which guarding formed during our childhood in order to protect our body and when what was needed is brought to the body in adulthood. The body remembers that and can start to release and yield into the safety that it wanted to as a child.

With that, with the release of that past wound, then they can be with their adult intimate partner or with themselves and not get triggered into the past. It's so interesting. I'd love to see more research on this. Like they, they know that harmful touch or neglect. The absence of touch can have these epigenetic effects.

We're actually changing our, not only our own nervous system expression throughout life, but those of our children. But, but I wonder if the opposite is true because it feels like it, it should be like these healing experiences of those like. Basic neuroendocrine responses feel like they, they change us at that core level, like core level, our functioning, right?

Yeah. Yes. We know that, the effect of touch in the brain development of infants and what I've noticed within my clients I find that the more there is safety with receiving. Touch and particularly touch that is pleasurable and pleasurable. Whether that means reassuring, grounding, supportive pleasurable to touch.

There seems to be something that happens in there. Within their nervous system where it feels safe to receive life force in other forms. So it's very common for me to see clients who were resistant to touch or felt like, okay, that's enough. When there's safety and there's an expansion of their vessel for receiving goodness, they start to get promotions at work.

Their personal lives start to change. The quality of their intimate relationships start to expand because here they are now feeling safe to receive. Yes. Yes. And once you establish that basic safety, that yielding to receive support, that sense of being partnered in a relational web, like I see you then move into the.

The more like the choice and voice you were saying the adolescent wounding that most of us experience. Yes. Something else I noticed with choice and voice like it cannot be under stated how transformational learning. It sounds simple to ask for what you want. I find that when the body.

Has the evidence that it is gonna be advocated for both in its consent and its boundaries and its desires. The deaming happens much more easily. Because the body has this, it has this life experience. Yeah. And a kind of a. A positive feedback loop that starts to happen. The more it advocates for what it wants and it receives the kind and quality of touch that it truly desires, then it encourages it to advocate more, and then there's less and less reason for this unconscious guarding to stay in effect.

So that trauma isn't just in the tissues, it's in our personal histories. And also we live in a traumatic culture. On one of your podcasts recently you were speaking about how the aggressions of patriarchy, of racism, of all the oppressions that are the water we swim in, they're impacting our blood flow, our neuroendocrine functioning.

Prohibiting access to pleasure. So what I feel with you is that you generate a different way of being inside yourself and bring this counter normative cultural space into your work and into your how you teach people to like a way of being with one another and with themselves.

And so I wondered if you could speak about that a little bit. Sure. Thank you for that reflection. Yeah, I really feel that. Nervous systems are really like tuning forks. And we've all experienced, if we go into an elevator and there's someone who's upregulated, we start to feel that anxiety.

And the converse is true too. When we're with someone who's like kind of zenned out drinking, drinking some warm tea, we start to feel relaxed as well. 'cause our nervous systems really do attune to each other. And this can happen on a grand scale, but in the session space. I really feel like the intention of the facilitator or practitioner is picked up on.

On some level by the nervous system of the client or receiver. And so whether it's two lovers exploring intimacy or a practitioner and a client the intention of the space holder is really critical. I feel like there are, support guides and angels all around us just waiting for us to call on them.

And, before a client comes, I actually call upon the client's spirit guides and angel guides and ancestors for witnessing support. Because what we're intending to do really is reconnect a life force with its own energy. And that's gonna ripple through, the ancestral lineage through all of that.

So I'm calling on all of these, support guides and yeah, I do feel like the more empty I am as a practitioner in service of attuning to how the life force wants to meet itself the less interference there is, within the session. Oh, I love that. The more empty you are as a practitioner, the more.

You're getting out of the way of this life force wanting to reconnect with itself. Like I actually don't I always have a rough and I share this with the client, like a rough outline of how. What modalities can be applied during the session, but ultimately it's up to the client's body.

And more than that, it's up to the client's body's life force. And it's my job to attune to that and obviously check in with the client to make sure that they're feeling a full yes to it, but it's really attuning to how Lifeforce wants to meet itself. Nice. Ooh, yes. Can you say anything about what brought you to that way of being, which I just it's so beautiful to be connected with you or in your presence.

And yeah. What. A yummy experience. Your students are gonna have showing up for your Zoom calls and getting your support. Because that that safety and belonging are what people feel in your presence. And and this careful caring connection and tracking and noticing the people noticing each person with exquisite attention.

That's, like your magic rahi, and I'm just like curious about yeah how did you learn that? And then how do you support your students in getting that? Oh, thank you for that, for those reflections. I'm a little embarrassed to hear all of those and that praise. I have to really go back to, I don't know if I've ever shared this with you, Kain, but I had an experience in the north of Thailand. I was staying at a Buddhist monastery for a 21 day Vipasana retreat, and it was somewhere around day 13 or 14 when I just so much. Pent up emotion had been processed and metabolized.

I went through all of this kind of dramatic inner turmoil. Do I stay, do I leave? And by the 10th day, I had dropped into kind of this zone of meditating, 12 to 13 hours a day, an hour sitting an hour walking an hour sitting an hour walking. And it was in the midst of this walking meditation.

I remember the shrine, I remember the cold floor tile. 'cause it was very humid outside in the summer. And in the midst of it, something happened. And it's really hard to put into words, but, the eye that I identified myself with had evaporated and I was just this awareness in the field and I was, the awareness in the field was able to see this body that, was rawhi engaging in this walking meditation, but the awareness was in the walls.

It was in the ceiling. It was just everywhere.

Something about that experience has guided me, I think, ever since. And whether I'm on the dance floor with ecstatic dance it's really wanting to drop that identity and be the awareness. And so that's how. That's what I love about sessions. If I can drop that and, I can drop that whilst trusting that my training and experience knows how to facilitate, if a trigger happens or if there's some kind of space holding in particular that needs to happen.

But it, it really allows for kind of. The field to come in and facilitate the session, like aligning with the great awareness that is in everything. Yeah. Yeah. I really aspire to do that too in my own ways. Yeah. It's very resonant with my own practice, which I come at from a diff bit of a different angle.

More from like the physics of it. Quantum consciousness. Yeah. Where all is ever emergent. In the relational field death. And I think those of us who are drawn to or are practiced in, kind of these practices of that surrender the ego, whether it's, deep meditation or working with plant medicines like sex even erotic energy.

At to a, at a certain, when there is a prolonged state of erotic energy, it can be like a psychedelic state where the ego disappears and there's just this primal life force that wants to meet itself. Yeah. And any orgasm, no matter how. It is in a sense that it's like surrendering this ego death.

Yes. And you can cultivate expanded ecstatic states and like orgasmic states, you really, you can go there in such a gorgeous way. Also, like in trauma, we go there, we go to that surrendered state, and those traumatic experiences that are in our culture, so lonely and unaccompanied and terrible in us, they feel like a diminishment of an extinguishment of the self, which they are.

If we can learn to hold them like. In a re-patterning process where like that ego death can actually be welcomed and celebrated, then it can make of our traumas like a pathway to something greater. So I think what you're speaking to is so important. I want to clarify. So yes, when a traumatic incident happens, it is like our ego is being subjugated.

A death without our consent. Yes. And so what I'm hearing you share is that experience when it is mindfully and intentionally held, it can be. Almost reconditioned in a way. Yeah. Yeah. Where one is at choice of the environment and the circumstance that they are choosing to engage in, in order to re-experience that story, but from an empowered place of choice.

Exactly like how we hold those traumas in our tissues in this armor, in this like Clint. And when we can get support loving help, how are we drawn to work with the genitals where so much trauma is is held and yet so much ecstasy is possible. That actual re-patterning of an integration in a in a new culture is what I what I've experienced with you in different ways, right? Like in the simple clothes on way of yielding to receive support and just an initial meeting with one another that you support oh, this is a different world where I, a yielding does not mean like a. A danger.

It means like I receive support. In my surrender, I enter the field of all that is and loves me. It holds me. And then the re-patterning of having voice and choice. I did a program that you guided one day of going into our. Our teenage traumas and rewriting them so that the experiences that we'd had each person in the group got to rescript their traumatic teenage experience and experience something new that was about joy and being companioned in exploring sexuality.

And then the actual genital touch, which like less people think that all this is about like soul and spirit and presence and safety and everything there. It are actually like genitals that get touched in all kinds of amazing ways. Yes. Yeah. What you're speaking to is really what I love about.

This work. I it is holy work. It's divine work where we can take something, it's almost like the lotus flower growing out of the darkness because we're taking a story that the body has experienced this pain and traumatic and disempowering, and we're. Consciously bringing elements of choice and voice, of understanding how to voice one's pleasure, desires, consent, boundaries, and really rewriting that script in the body so that what was once disempowering is now like a field of empowerment for the body.

And that is just, it's life changing. Yeah. And this is where, in regards to the genitals and working with the genitals in our field, genital mapping is such a cornerstone. And I feel like this is why it is so important because once the body learns how to advocate for itself, you know the difference between, I want my vulva touched.

And being so specific to be able to attune to and say, I, I want the upper left quadrant of my clitoral glands to be stroked, about one second per stroke. It's so night and day different, and that really brings so much more specificity and sensation and intimacy to the relationship between one.

One and one's genitalia by, going through a very exquisite mapping process. Yeah. Not of the, not only of the genitals, but of the whole body. Can you describe about how you engage with person in that mapping process? Sure. Yeah, we always start from the outside in. The first kind of terrain to get familiar with is to understand how the nervous system, what the nervous system needs to feel safe.

So that is a fully clothed process. And whilst they are clothed again, we start from the outside in first, we're using props like pillows and blankets, and then we'll bring in. Touch, but the person remains clothed. And then only if the client feels ready to move further, then they can disrobe to the degree they feel comfortable and start receiving touch.

And this is where the mapping process starts. The touch is different kinds and quality. It could be a feathery stroke, it could be, more of a glide sensual stroke. It could be a firm present stillness, but each different body part can learn what its preferences are and what makes it feel good.

And during this process, we focus on the 11 erogenous zones of the body. Elicit a particular responsiveness. It's not always all 11 on all bodies, but usually people learn something new about the back of their knees or their ears or the back of their neck or their lower belly. Because it's very intentional.

And this is the other thing I love about our field, is there's such a. A priority on one way touch, which I just think is magic. And I've had couples, I think we've all had coup a couple clients who were married for decades and they've never explored one way touch. And it is such a teacher, it is such a liberator an education just like this whole.

Research data you get to collect about your lover's body and what they prefer. So then we do the 11 erogenous zones, and again, we work from the outside in the eros of the hands and the feet, the ears, the back of the neck are furthest away. And then we eventually move closer and closer to the more vulnerable parts of the body.

And we do all that before we do any pelvic touch. Because there needs to be that evidence that the body has, that it can trust, this touch, this dynamic, and its own voice in advocating for what it wants. And then when we get to the pelvis, then the mapping can get very specific. And again, we go from the outside in.

The upper thighs, the crease, the outer labia, and we're always looking for the full bodies. Yes. Before we move further, either to the cl clitoris or to the internal vaginal canal where there are just so many distinct erogenous areas that deserve specific attention and attunement.

Yes. Could you like describe one or two of say when we were working with my genitals, you got around the cervix with some special touch that was like quite incredible because, I don't. Yeah, like there it was like nerves that had never been touched, and then you were rewiring them, like with some external touch, which was more used to being pleasured and yeah. So just these exquisite actual techniques that are so like amazing to explore and useful to learn. Yeah, most cervixes are armored for a variety of reasons. There could be, medical procedures like colonoscopies or I just, I recently consulted with a client who had a leap procedure in her twenties and she has excruciating pain after orgasms.

So there could be medical reasons, but for most of us. During our teen years, we don't really learn about consent and boundaries and I find that most of my female clients, most of the clients who are all the owners, are penetrated before their bodies are really sufficiently warmed up and engorged.

And as we know when a body is sufficiently aroused, the uterus lifts and actually moves the cervix out of the way of something incoming. But for most of my clients in their teens and twenties, that doesn't happen. So the cervix gets banged up against, and so that can, really armor the cervix and honestly, Kain the way I've learned to drm the cervix and what you experienced was a lot of it was like the intention of the touch, to touch from a real heartfelt intention so that the cervix. In Chinese medicine, the cervix is correlated with the heart organ. So it really responds to love, whether that's the, practitioner's love soul to a client or in an intimate situation.

But just to touch with love and. I first explore areas around the cervix that are responsive and if there's any kind of responsiveness, and it could even be pain or discomfort that's better than numbness or that's like a starting point. And oftentimes the one o'clock and 11 o'clock. The upper right and upper left quadrants tend to be more sensitive than the other areas.

I can focus there to just expand that friendly, safe touch and allow that to spread. And it's almost it's almost like a scared animal. It's once it, it's gonna be guarded and hypervigilant if all it's experienced before was unwanted, like contact.

So once you know it needs to build, there needs, there's a lot of trust building that happens. And one of the. Methods that you mentioned is if there is a part of the body, like the clitoris for example, that is used to eliciting pleasure, you can concurrently stroke the armored area in this case the cervix with the clitoris and something happens with the brain where it's experiencing pleasure in an air and touch.

And we're very Pavlovian in that way where we can get rewired and that can be done not only with the cervix, but really any two areas of the genitals or even the body. Like sometimes, clients may not have a lot of nipple or breast sensation, but if you start pairing it with clitoral strokes or something of that sort, then things can shift.

Yeah. And in an environment of. Of loving of love and loving touch. That's so key to neuroplasticity to have that bath of oxytocin. Yes. It's yeah. It's so interesting, eh, like how the, yeah. Rewiring can happen, but having that chosen like choiceful rewiring of like how we want to grow our nervous systems.

It requires that loving environment, that like heartfelt presence and empowerment like a feeling of I'm at choice. I get to change my mind at any time. Yes. But actually as a neuroendocrine state that we've, that we cultivate, so that we have neuroplasticity. Yeah, we're really, our bodies are very susceptible to suggestion.

I've been hearing about these studies where, we all know about Pavlov's experiment with the dog and the bell and the salivation, but they've done these studies with humans where. It was at Johns Hopkins or Harvard or one of these universities where they inject like something into the arm of humans that spikes a chemical in the body.

And they did this for a week, and then the second week they switched it out. They switched it out with just saline solution. The body's chemistry still responded, in the same way. So this is some indication of, if it can change the chemistry, if suggestion can change the chemistry, within the body, then certainly, yeah.

We're very susceptible when it comes to rewiring for pleasure as well. Yeah. And when we have these big, expansive experiences like, like working with a professional. We also are gathering tools that where we have choice to like, keep that expansion going in our lives, especially with these techniques that you're teaching and offering in your online program.

I was wondering if you had some stories about working with clients. I always, i'm curious to hear a story about you working with a man, because I think like men working with men are like really is a place where so much cultural and personal transformation can happen. Yeah. Let's see.

Which, which story to share. There've been, just a few things I wanna share at the outset. Like I've had clients who, for example, I had a 69-year-old gentleman come to me because he learned he had prostate cancer and he had never explored the pleasures of his prostate. Like at like at any age, the wonders of the body are waiting. They're like goldmines to be discovered, they're like treasures. And when he experienced his first prostate induced orgasm, as we know, analogous to, what I've been told is the experience of a cervical orgasm because the vagus nerve, innervates both the cervix and the prostate.

Like it was a spiritual experience for him. It just opened up so much for him. So I, I mentioned that. Not as a case study, but as an encouragement for penis owners out there to lean into exploring anal pleasure and specifically prostate health and prostate massage and prostate pleasure.

If it's of any interest to you, because there's so much to explore and be discovered there. Yeah, I've had some clients recently, who were men, gay men. Two in particular. I'm lumping them in this. Because they shared the same thing of, growing up in the Midwest where they knew they were gay, but they had to really closet it and stay hidden until they moved to either New York or la and then it becomes such a.

Ecstatic yet not always safe exploration of this energy that's been pent up and repressed for a long time. And so oftentimes the freedom, the sudden freedom to explore in, in clubs or in communities becomes a thing of. Experiencing penetration or being penetrated when there's not necessarily a lot of presence and consciousness around it.

And from that can come armor. Certainly from the pressure to perform or from the desire to prove one's virility by just enduring. And yeah, there can be. Numbness that forms around the anal sphincter or around the shaft of the penis. And this is where disarming the basics of what we've been speaking about, making sure the nervous system feels safe to receive.

Empowering the body's choice and voice mapping so that there is an ability to attune to, and then give voice to the specific areas of the sphincter, the different quadrants, the internal, external, or the different areas of the shaft. And then really engaging in. The kind of fundamentals of deep breathing, presence, allowing emotions to flow and rewiring, armored areas with pleasurable areas.

Beautiful. Yeah, I feel like, oh, this culture is so like really cells, men, short when it comes to eroticism. So few men get a chance to. Explore soft penis pleasures and explore, so often the first touch they receive is like actually cutting off the foreskin when they're an infant.

And then they show up for eroticism, like thinking they have to have a hard penis and like rough, high friction strokes and just oh my gosh, there's so much to explore, so much joy and juiciness in the erotic responses that can be opened up with mindful. Touch of all the genitals.

Yeah, I so agree. I think like in a thousand years, people are gonna look back at this kind of era where there's no sex education. We're all sexual beings. We all have the same issues. No one talks about it. It's just gonna be looked at as this really bizarre yeah, what are these? What are they doing?

Yeah, what? That sure didn't work. Yeah. Oh my gosh. We have this natural organic pharmacology of chemicals and feelings and sensations to heal, in our own body. And, like I really. I know that good sex is medicine, heightened erotic states can transform consciousness.

Oh, these are things that are in our bodies and just so much joy to have and to share and. Here's a quote from a client from your website. I have experienced a fundamental resurrection. My whole pelvic floor has come alive more than it ever was before, even before the six surgeries.

Frozen traumatic energy has been liberated and transmuted, fueling enormous amounts of motivation, confidence, stamina, and creativity. The transformation ha have been rapid and the change sustained. That's the kind of experiences that Yes. Like clients are having and I'm so happy that you're teaching Rahi and talk about finding ways to, to be of service to Yeah.

Instead of trying to fit everybody into your practice, you're all your students then can take this into their lives, into their communities, their professional lives. They're intimate relationships and really like help to release this like enormous amounts of motivation, confidence, stamina, and creativity that we experience when we can, shed the thousand pounds of armor that most of us are carrying around.

And the genital deaming. You have a special for couples too, which I imagine it'd be lovely to take the genital deaming as a couple. And practice on one another? Yes, that's, that's always been a dream of mine because so many of my clients have said, oh, if my partner could learn this, a lot of people just like learning in the privacy of their own bedroom.

And so there's a special rate for couples for the genital disarming course where they can just move at their own pace and their own time in the privacy of their own home. Yeah, that'd be so lovely. And a new relationship too. I've just got a new, wonderful relationship I'm exploring and just oh, what would just be such create.

Atic playground and also sharing, like details of our traumas and how that gets held in the body even at almost 70. Yeah. Like a wonderful way to get, let's get to know each other. Yeah. Yeah, that is, that, that's actually an integral part of the course for couples is we do invite each person to take inventory of the influences that have affected their sexual embodiment so that they have a sense of, what makes them feel safe? What makes them wanna go into fight flight or fawn? And then choose to share that with their partners because so often the partners think it's about them and take it personally. When someone goes into freeze or says no. And just understanding each other's histories can bring so much more empathy and compassion and, not take things personally because it's usually not about them.

Beautiful. Yeah. That's so inviting. Now you also have some in-person offerings. Rahi that sound really exciting. Our our in-person couples retreat for February is actually sold out now. Woo. Yeah, so that's sold out. But Ariel and I will be driving across country from Boston to LA sometime later this spring.

And we haven't identified exactly what route we're gonna take, but we do wanna offer opportunities to teach and train and sessions along the way. So it looks like Austin and Sedona are musts. We're looking at Atlanta and possibly Virginia Beach. As other possibilities. So if you're somewhere along the way and there's an interest in us teaching your community or your friends groups or receiving a couple session from us, then feel free to inquire.

How beautiful. Yeah.

So is there anything else that we haven't touched on that you'd like to share with folks? We've touched on so many things. I just wanna share what a delight it is to converse and connect and commune with you. And I think our listeners know what a tremendously brilliant and bright light you are.

And thank you so much for holding space for this exploration today. All right. It's really been my pleasure and my honor to just, I'm like maybe your biggest fan. We just love you and love your work in the world. I love you too. C,   

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