How Trauma Wires the Body – 

A client once whispered in shame that she thought she was a monster because of how her body responded during her abuse. She wasn’t – her nervous system simply wired a horrific violent act with a physiological response. In this teaching I explain how trauma creates dissociation, how arousal can become wired to what horrifies us, and how new neural pathways are possbile.

Why 80% of Adult Intimacy Struggles Begin in Childhood

80–90% of adult sexual issues can be traced back to developmental events occuring between ages birth through seven. In this conversation, we explore how the body tests every practitioner like a hurt friend would, and what soft de-armoring looks like with somatic sexuality pioneers Susanne Roursgaard and Stine Krage.

The Throat–Pelvis Connection Everyone Should Know

Your vocal cords and your ovaries began as the same embryonic tissue – and what silences your voice can armor your pelvis. In this teaching from my live Genital De-armoring training, I share the embryology, why learned voicelessness shows up as pelvic tension and numbness, and the simple sound practice that begins to dissolve it.

Explore more through the online course “Reclaiming Your Pleasure” with video demos of one-way erotic touch practices on live bodies, exploring how your initial imprints are influencing your current patterns, and somatic practices for re-wiring and reclaiming your aroual and pleasure potential:  Reclaiming Your Pleasure

What Is Genital Armoring? Why Your Body Protects You From Pleasure

Genital armoring is the body’s protective tension – numbness, pain, or faded sensation held in our most intimate tissue as a wise response to perceived threat. In this conversation, somatic sex education pioneer Caffyn Jesse interviews me about what genital armor is, how it forms in childhood, and why whole lives can change when it releases.

Explore more through “The 3 Keys To Genital De-armoring for Reclaiming & Expanding Pleasure” – including “The 3 Keys Inquiries” exploring how the armor in your pelvis formed, video demos for self and partnered de-armoring of the vulva, vagina, cervix and penis, and the principles of effective and compassionate de-armoring:  The 3 Keys To Genital De-armoring for Reclaiming & Expanding Pleasure 

Conscious intimacy reflects the ability to remain present, connected, and responsive within intimate and erotic relationship – while staying aware of your body, emotions, and boundaries.  It is built through awareness, communication, nervous system regulation and engaging your full erotic capacity.

Videos on this pillar are coming. In the meantime, listen to the most down-loaded episodes on Intimate Relating or explore the online course options for Divine Union For Lovers

→ Listen: Extended Lovemaking: slow down for deep connection & pleasure

→ Listen: Rebuilding Intimacy after healing from sexual trauma

→ Listen: Sexuality, Aging and Intimacy after 60

→ Learn:  Divine Union For Lovers – online, guided zoom & in-person options

Somatic work supports sexual function by restoring awareness, circulation, and nervous system regulation—rather than relying on force or performance.

Videos on this pillar are coming. In the meantime, listen to the most down-loaded episodes on Men’s Sexuality or explore the online course Reclaiming Your Pleasure. 

→ Listen: Prostate Massage & Male Pleasure

→ Listen: A Somatic Approach to resolving erectile dysfunction

→ Listen: Embodied Anal Pleasure & Prostate Play

→ Learn:  Reclaiming Your Pleasure Online Course

Erotic embodiment is the capacity to feel and express sexual energy throughout the body—integrating sensation, emotion, breath, and awareness.

Videos on this pillar are coming. In the meantime, listen to the most down-loaded episodes on Erotic Energy & Sexual Awakening or explore the online course Turned On By Touch

→ Listen: Ecstatic Belonging & Embodied Community

→ Listen: Rewilding Eros: Exploring Shame, Grief and Sexual Expression

→ Listen: Erotic Empowerment & Somatic Intimacy

→ Learn:  Turned On By Touch Online Course